Warren Bennis, An Icon Passes
Last week, Warren Bennis, an icon and mentor, passed away from natural causes at the age of 89. I studied under Dr. Bennis at USC in the late 80’s. I hadn’t seen him for many years until 2008 where we reconnected at the story telling event held by movie executive, Peter Guber.
We were sitting at a small round table with about five other people having lunch. Warren looked at me curiously and said, “we’ve met before haven’t we?” I told Dr. Bennis that it had been close to 20 years, but he sat on my doctoral committee for the qualifying exams of my program. That’s when he looked at me and said, “I wasn’t very nice to you was I?” I was flabbergasted that he would ask me that question. Now the truth was that he was very, very tough on me. His critiscims were always professional and insightful, but I always remembered him as just plain tough!
What he said next completely changed my opinion of him.
He said, “I’m sorry. I really don’t like sitting on doctoral committees because they are a little like boot camp. You have to put people through these difficult situations to make sure they have what it takes to justify the degree we are about to confer upon them. It’s necessary, but it’s not really the kind of person I am.” I acknowledged that he had been tough, but I also told him he was right in his criticisms and redirection.
What I didn’t tell him, and wish I had, was how much I respected him for telling me this now. As we sat at this event somewhat closer to peers, he could have easily continued with the professor/student relationship. Instead, he shared with me his inner feelings about the doctoral process we went through and humanized his actions in a way that only increased my respect for him.
We stayed in touch from time to time over the last six years. He gave me advice when I was on the selection committee for a new President at the University of La Verne, and we met for dinner a couple years ago when he was speaking at the university. Each time he shared nuggets with me that I will remember throughout my life.
He wrote many books on leadership. He will always be known for his expertise in that field; however, some of us know him as a truly fine man who made a difference in many people’s lives.
4 thoughts on “Warren Bennis, An Icon Passes”
Everyone needs a Warren Bennis in their life to challenge them to become a better person and excel to the degree they are capable. Thanks for sharing your memories of a man who impacted your life for the better.
A very moving tribute and reminder that we need to reach out and thank those who have influenced and impacted our lives. Honoring others is a priceless gift worth sharing. Each one of us has times when we wonder if we made a difference… remembering what others have shared about how we helped them in their lives gives meaning and depth to our own.
So let me take this opportunity to thank you, Ivan Misner, for all I’ve learned from you over the past decade. Your teachings, example, and influence have helped me develop a business that is fun, impacts lives, and makes money. 🙂
Thank you for sharing this story about Dr. Bennis. It helps elucidate the importance of role models. I think we all are role models — if not directly for someone then just by establishing a status quo with our presence and behavior.
You are one of my role models, Dr. Misner. Your “Givers Gain” perspective and commitment to long-term goals demonstrate a path to success that is promising.
My hope is that in time I can be as influential as you!
Thank you Joe, I appreciate your comments.