Over and over again in life I am reminded that exceptional performance is not achieved by looking for exceptions. I don’t feel very diplomatic today so, I’ll just say it like I see it. I find it really tiring to deal with people who want “great” results but don’t want to put in “great” effort. I honestly think that if people spent half as much time focusing on the fundamentals of success in the areas they are interested in – they would get twice the results of what they are currently getting. Instead, I see way too many people searching for ideas and then arguing with people about what works (especially people who have already achieved success in that area).
Earlier this year I read an article by a friend of mine who was talking about Tony Alessandra’s Platinum Rule (treat people the way ‘they’ want to be treated, not the way ‘you’ want to be treated). His piece was well written about Tony’s material. Then, some guy posted a comment saying this was a horrible idea because people don’t always know what’s best for them. Really? That seemed crazy to me but, maybe I was overreacting. I thought I’d check some of this guy’s other writings. I started looking at his comments on other people’s postings and he was ALWAYS the guy taking the opposing position. He disagreed with virtually everyone about virtually everything. I then started looking at his original postings and discovered he was a total loser! He clearly jumped from business to business and didn’t appear to be successful at anything. The best thing this guy seemed to do was. . . wait for it, wait for it – yes, argue about everything.
Soon after I read my friend’s article about the Platinum Rule, I received an email from someone who visited some networking groups and wrote me an email saying:
“I am interested in how I can provide my extensive list of contacts to a local networking group without having to attend the weekly meetings… we can [only] attend once a month to a meeting… but we still [want to] adopt the groups ethos and principles of such a well structured program.”
His request got me thinking…
I’d like to win the Tour De France but, I don’t like all that peddling. I’ve always thought it would be amazing to win an Olympic medal but come on, is all that conditioning really necessary? I would have liked to become a medical doctor but, can I do it without all the blood and internal organ stuff… yuk! I would love, really love, to be a military General – but boot camp? Really, do I have to do boot camp? But, most coveted of all – a Nobel Peace prize. That would truly be amazing. But, must I change the world in some important way? Surely, there is something less I can do but still get the same results – right?
If only wishing made it so, but it doesn’t.
Looking for exceptions to what’s been proven to work seems to be the norm. However, those who go around constantly searching for exceptions to validate reasons why the disciplined hard work that has made others successful won’t work for them will, in my experience, only find one overriding truth–the exceptional people who have achieved success through consistent, disciplined action are, in fact, the only real exceptions to the norm..
Have you seen people like I’m describing here? If so, tell us the story. I can’t be the only person who sees this… right?