Networking is more about farming than it is about hunting
Over the years, I have observed that most business professionals go about networking the way our cave-dwelling ancestors went about hunting for food. If I could impart one piece of wisdom regarding networking and getting more referrals, it would be this: Networking is about farming for new contacts, not hunting them.
Has a complete stranger ever solicited you for a referral or business? I call this “premature solicitation.” I have been its victim many times. Years ago, I was speaking at a networking event, and before my presentation, an unknown person approached me and said, “Hi, it is a real pleasure to meet you. I understand you know Richard Branson. I offer specialized marketing services and I am sure his Virgin enterprises could benefit from what I provide. Could you please introduce me to him so that I can show him how this would assist his companies?”
I replied with the following response: “Hi, I’m Ivan Misner. I am sorry. I do not think we have met before. What was your name again?” That surprised the man enough to make him realize his solicitation might have been a bit premature. I continued to explain to him. “I regularly refer people to my contacts, but only after I’ve established a strong, long-term relationship with the service provider”. He thanked me and moved on to his next victim.
Over the years, many people have shared with me their frustrations about strangers who pounce on them at networking meetings and ask for business. However, occasionally someone will share with me that they approve of using “premature solicitation”. Here is one example that I received:
“I don’t happen to believe that you need a relationship with the person you are asking first. What you must have is a compelling story or product/service that would genuinely benefit the referral. The fact that you had not cultivated a relationship with the person has become irrelevant because, more importantly, you had been in a position to help [your contact] benefit from the introduction. If it’s of genuine benefit to the person being referred, I don’t see the problem. Who am I to deny my contacts something good?”
The relationship is “irrelevant”, according to this person. It does not matter if I actually know or trust someone. As long as the person has a worthy product, I should not “deny my contacts something good.” I absolutely disagree, and I would ask anyone interested in business networking to keep the following in mind:
- Networking is not about hunting.
- Networking is about farming.
- It’s about cultivating relationships.
- Do not be guilty of premature solicitation.
This kind of networker is also meeting people. However, they build relationships first, instead of just adding names to a contact list. They are building referral sources to people that were referred to them by their strategic alliances. Proper networking is about taking the time to cultivate relationships. Use networking opportunities to first meet people, Then schedule additional times to connect and build trust with them. Do not ask someone for a business referral until you feel confident that the person knows and trusts you.
Networking is indeed like farming. Commit to mastering what it takes to efficiently and effectively harness the potential in your “relationship crops” and you will reap a bountiful harvest of mutually satisfying relationships and sustainable growth in your business.
6 thoughts on “Networking is more about farming than it is about hunting”
Your statements in response were not what I expected. I presumed that you would respond that it does make a difference because 1. I don’t know that you have a worthy product until I have experienced it myself or heard testimonials about it from my trusted resources. Furthermore, if the person seeking the referral is a total slime ball, fraudster, or doesn’t have the requisite ability to produce the product or service, any referral would reflect poorly upon my personal judgment and reputation, therefore decreasing my credibility with my contact.
Honestly Ray, that is exactly what my inner voice is thinking. I edit myself in what I actually say – but I think it!
Hello, Dr. Misner,
my name is Rosanna Villani and I’m a BNI Member (Italy – Region Brescia -BNI Vittoria Alata )
could I translate your article and post it on my Facebook page? Unfortunatelly some of my BNI collegues doesn’t speak English and I’d like share this article with them.
Obviously I’ll link the original article!
Thank you in advance!
Hi Rosanna. Yes, feel free to translate the article as long as you use my “byline” and link back.
Thanks for asking.
Thanks for posting