Diversity and Networking
When it comes to business networking, you never know who people know. One of the important keys to being successful at building a powerful personal network is diversity.
In running a large business networking organization for the last two decades, I often speak to people who tell me they want to network exclusively business professionals who have similar clients. Although it is good to include these people in your personal network, networking with them exclusively would be a tremendous mistake.
It is human nature to congregate with people that are very much like us. People tend to cluster together based on education, age, race, professional status, etc… The problem with this is that when we surround ourselves with people who have similar contacts it may be difficult to make connections with new people or companies with whom we desire to do business.
A diverse personal network enables you to increase the possibility of including connectors or “linchpins” in your network. Linchpins are people who in some way cross over between two or more clusters or groups of individuals; this allows them to link groups of people together easily. The best way to increase the number of possible connections in your network is to develop a diverse network – not a homogeneous one.
Having developed thousands of networking groups in dozens of countries around the world, I can categorically state that the strongest networking groups I’ve seen are generally ones that are diverse in many, many ways. I believe that one of the problems in understanding this concept is a somewhat built-in bias that many people have about networking with individuals that are outside their normal frame of reference. Let me give you an example. A good friend of mine in Boston, Patti Salvucci, recently told me an amazing story.
Patti runs dozens of networking groups for BNI in the Boston area. She arrived a little early to the meeting of one of the groups she was visiting that met in a private room at Fenway Park and noticed an older gentleman setting up coffee mugs in preparation for the meeting. Patti is a master networker and so she struck up a conversation with the man while waiting for members to arrive. In talking to him, she was really taken by the amazing tenor of his voice. She mentioned to him that he had an incredible voice and asked what he did before this. The gentleman informed her that he used to be a commentator for CNN! He went on to tell her that in his later years, he wanted to work in a less hectic job as well as live closer to his daughter. He decided to take on the job of managing the owner’s suite at Fenway Park in Boston because it gave him an opportunity to be close to his family while having a less hectic career later in life.
Patti asked him about some of the people that he met during his time in broadcasting. He shared many great stories with her including an interview that he had done with JFK a week before he was assassinated. He also talked about meeting Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela during his career. It was an interesting conversation that she genuinely enjoyed.
Later when the meeting was in full swing, one of the members, Don, publicly mentioned that he would really like to do a radio talk show someday and was looking for some contacts that could help him pursue this dream. After the meeting, Patti asked Don… “Do you see that guy over there (pointing to the ex-CNN commentator)? Have you seen him before?” “Yea,” said Don, “he’s the guy who sets up the coffee for our meeting.” Patti said to Don, “did you know that he used to be a broadcaster for CNN?” Don said, “I had no idea!!!” Patti suggested that Don introduce himself and learn a little about the man he’s seen every week for the last several months because he may very well be able to make a connection for him in the broadcasting industry.
The irony in this story is that he had seen the man on many occasions but had not struck up a conversation with him because he felt that they had little, if anything, in common. The truth is, when it comes to networking – not having a lot in common with someone may mean that they can be a connector for you to a whole world of people that you might not otherwise be able to meet.
If you wish to build a powerful personal network – branch out. Build a diverse network of professional contacts that include people that don’t look like you, sound like you, speak like you, or have your background, education, or history. The only thing that they should have in common with you and the other people in your network – is that they should be really good at what they do. Create a personal network like that, and you’ll have a network that can help you succeed at anything.
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And the funny thing is? I usually here that when talking to someone beyond what you naturally talk to networkers about. Tonight’s story was that I was talking to a life/exercise coach about her business as we have done many times before and then about her Hobbies. We made a huge connection because I finally got to know her hobbies.
This story is different than Patti’s in that Patti spoke to a stranger, and i spoke some one I knew, or did I?
Finding out different things about the people we know can open Opportunity Doors just like it did for Patti’s story.
Meeting new people or new sides of our friends are key ingredients to building a successful network.
So is listening to new ideas. Dr. Misner, I paid close attention to my body language when I had a one to one conversation at an event I attended tonight. I stood at an angle to the person I was conversing with and found it very easy to bring new people into the conversation. It was easy to bring the third person into the conversation, the momentum never changed and I gave him a referral. The only thing better than that was doing the radio show with you last week. It is brought up every where I go. Thank you for giving, I certainly gained. Just let me know how I can return the favor
What a great article! Its true that sometimes connections come to us from the places where we least expect it.