3 Reasons Why Acting Like a Host at Events Can Alleviate Networking Fear

At a recent Referral Institute conference, I was talking with Tiffanie Kellog and Renia Carsillo, two Referral Institute trainers from Florida, and we were talking about the “Ten Commandments for Working a Networking Mixer.”  To our surprise, we each share the same favorite when it comes to the Networking Mixer Commandments yet the reasons why it’s our favorite are quite different.

Tiffanie is an introvert, I’m a situational extrovert, and Renia is an introverted go-getter.  However the “Act Like a Host, Not a Guest” Commandment provides unique solutions in making networking more comfortable and natural for all three of these personality types and in this brief video we discuss  exactly how.

If you’re interested in learning about the Ten Commandments of Working a Networking Mixer, come back on Monday, October 1st to find out more.  In the meantime, let us know what you think of this video.  Are you more similar to Tiffanie, Renia, or me when it comes to your personality type?  Are you going to try the tactic of acting like a host at your next event?  If so, please revisit this page and leave a comment after your event to let us  know how it went–we’d love to hear about your experience.

Body Language Can Be the Silent Killer of Conversations

Body language can be an extremely powerful or attractant or deterrent when it comes to building relationships with others.  Could you be unknowingly undermining your networking efforts through your body language?

Here’s a good experiment to implement, sooner rather than later.  The next time you’re out networking, take along a trusted friend and have him observe your body language.  Here are several things you can ask him to focus on regarding your performance at this event:

  • Eye contact.  Are you making good eye contact throughout the conversation?  Or are you looking behind the person to see who else is at the event?
  • Arm movement.  What are your arms doing?  Are they folded (“I’m bored”) or tucked behind your back (“I’m interested”)?
  • Positioning.  Are you standing in a manner that is open and welcoming, or blocking people out of your conversation?  Are you leaning on something, as if bored or tired?  Are you unable to shake hands because you’re juggling  a plateful of food?
  • Facial expressions.  Are you smiling, or holding back a yawn?  Are you showing interest?  What does your face say?

Take time to discuss your friend’s observations and reactions.  Listen to the feedback, become more aware, and make adjustments accordingly.  Our body language is primarily subconscious–we’re usually not aware of it, or the hidden messages it sends.  That’s why we need the help of someone we trust to give us honest feedback.

People check you out visually within the first seven seconds of meeting you.  With that in mind, try these two actions in the next few weeks to help ensure that you are making positive and powerful first impressions:

  1. Look in the mirror before leaving the house and ask yourself, “What message am I sending to those who are meeting me for the first time?  What opinions will they have of me before I even open my mouth?”
  2. Become more aware of your body language by getting feedback.  What are you saying without speaking a word?  Take someone with you to your next networking function and ask them to provide honest, direct feedback on your body language.

After you’ve taken these actions, please come back and leave a comment sharing what important things you learned–we’d all like to hear your thoughts!

Video: Finding It Hard to Relate & Connect When Networking with Shy People?

A couple weeks back, I posted a video featuring top tips on overcoming your own shyness when networking.  The video featured a good friend of mine, Tara Schmakel, who is an expert on overcoming shyness as she herself was once very shy and is now known as “The Once Timid Networker.”

If you view yourself as being the definition of a gregarious extrovert, chances are that you noticed the video blog post and didn’t pay much attention because you thought the topic of timid networkers didn’t really apply to you.  However, there’s an aspect of the topic you may not be thinking about–even if you’re not shy yourself, if you don’t know how to effectively connect with other networkers who are on the timid side then you really aren’t an effective networker.

This is why I’m posting today’s video which features Tara and offers important insights into how to network and make connections with other networkers who are much more introverted and shy than you are. 

This is definitely one video worth watching–Tara offers some extremely valuable advice on how to effectively connect with timid networkers and, I’ll admit, she taught me a few very important things that never even occurred to me before about what to do and what not to do when it comes to gestures and approach.

After watching the video, I highly encourage you to check out more of Tara’s content by visiting her website: www.TheOnceTimidNetworker.com.

Your Behavioral Style IS Affecting Your Referrability

As a networker, there’s no question about whether or not your behavioral style is affecting your referrability–it IS.  The question is, how can you learn to effectively communicate with a diverse array of other behavioral styles while maintaining your own style for an optimum outcome?

In this video, Dawn Lyons (whom I consider to be one of the world’s leading experts on behavioral styles/profiles and referral networking), my partner in the Referral Institute, talks with me about how behavioral styles affect networking results and referrability. She discusses behavior profiling programs that help networkers adapt to and accommodate a variety of behavioral styles for maximum referrability.

After watching the video, I highly encourage you to visit the link Dawn mentions (www.ReferralsForLife.com) and watch the educational videos to get more information about behavioral styles (CLICK HERE to go directly to the videos).

What’s your behavioral style?  After watching some of the videos on ReferralsForLife.com, come back and leave your thoughts on what you’ve learned about your own behavioral style or other behavioral styles and how you can use this new information as you network.

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